So, You’re Too Cool For Partying?

I’ve been seeing it a lot on social media. Posts like “I don’t need to go to the club or party to have a good time.” Some may be grateful that our youth does not value reckless behavior such as partying, and while some people may see this as hope for the youth of today I guess I do not agree. As a member of this youthful generation, I believe that partying is exactly what we need.

Just look at the kids today, shall we? Many children are glued to their phones and lack basic social skills due to their dependency on social media and technology. Teens are starting to value social media fame over truly valuable relationships that they should be creating during these formative years. Partying is one of the few things that breaks down these walls, even just for one night. When people party, they use technology to document the fun that they are having through photos and videos and are taking the time to create memories. Partying promotes social interactions and helps people connect with each other. You can meet people who you have a lot in common with, people you learn a lot about, and even a potential love interest. I would rather have people talking about how much they had last night at a party than reading “what’s on their mind” in 160 characters or less.

Our generation needs to socialize now more than ever. Whether that is dancing at a club with some of your girlfriends, or approaching that mysterious stranger at the bar, there is always an opportunity to broaden your horizons and become open to more ways of life than just your own. Partying it is not even a new fad. Every generation has had it’s own time to let loose, let’s not condone our youth for enjoying the freedom and excitement that comes from being young, wild, and free.

And for those people who are the ones who condone the partying lifestyle via social media, let’s take a moment to explore your outlook. The partiers are out making tons of friends, dancing the night away, creating memories, learning about life and sharing stories into the wee hours of the night. If this is not your cup of tea, so be it. But why bother shaming a group of people who believe that being social is fun? “But most people who party smoke and drink!,” you might respond, and to that I reply, just like every other generalization made throughout history, this stereotype is not true for every member of a group. And if a partier happens to be 21 or over and wants to legally enjoy a few drinks WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE? Maybe the critics can learn a lot from the partiers. Take a night to dress up, get together with your friends, and dance the night away, it’s really not that bad…


Am I Fat or Beautiful? Pick One America!

I do not understand what’s going on. See half of me is bombarded with notions that I should love my body exactly as it is. That every curve, lump, and love handle, is beautiful. However, another source tells females, “you have to lose weight to be healthy, you don’t want to be obese, do you?” So where the hell do women fit in?! One day I will love my body and the next day I will hate it. It is not fair. I realize that the standards for women are falsified and fabricated but that doesn’t take away from some true facts that America has to face: we have a problem with weight. Yet every time a nutritionist is heard giving advice people are up in arms that society wants them to change their body.

European people tend to be so slim and well built and I feel like I have been robbed of the opportunity to easily be skinny because of how America tampers with our food systems. Everything is genetically engineered, sugars are always added, sodium is a must, and worst of all unneeded, unhealthy substances are added to our diet daily. So tell me America, where do I fit in? I want to be healthy and yet our food supply has condemned me to be fat. If obesity is really the problem in America it could easily be fixed, but they chose not to and continue to pollute our food. In addition, the unhealthy foods are cheaper and more common. At 11pm after a fun night, it is more accessible and more economical to split a pizza with your friends then to have to go out and forage for an unsatisfying salad. I am sick of listening to all the mixed signals: “Be healthy!” “Eat whatever makes you happy!” “Love your body!” “Remember to work out!” “Curves are beautiful!” “You should strive to be skinny!”

So what exactly am I supposed to do America? Am I beautiful the way I am? Or do I need to lose weight? Because at this point, these mixed signals are driving me insane.

10 Ways to Avoid Being “That [Drunk] Girl” At the Party



1.) If you are going to drink, know your limit and stick to it. Nothing makes you “That Girl” like being black out drunk by 9 o’clock and causing your friends to have to take care of you. 

2.) Don’t laugh like a hyena. There’s this thought that has come into girls heads that if you laugh boys will think your confident, likable, cute, funny…but no. Drunken laughing is different from normal laughing because its about 3 octaves higher than a normal laugh and about 100% more obnoxious. So just tone it down a little bit. 

3.) Wear heels you can walk in. We have all seen the girls who walk around in heels and look like new born baby giraffes. Don’t be that girl. Practice in your heels before and bring flats for backup. 

4.) If you’re going to wear a skirt or dress, make sure that you actually make sure that it does not ride up. Nothing says trashy like seeing a girl dancing on a table with her butt cheeks hanging out. Ask a friend to make sure that you’re looking hot by having her tell you when you’re skirt/dress is heading north.

5.) Don’t aggressively make out in the middle of a party with a guy. I get it, he’s cute. But have some dignity and move it to a more secluded area. No one wants to watch you shove your tongue down that frat guys mouth. And worse your friends might take it as a prime time to take some blackmail photos. 

6.) Try to control your emotions. I get if your having a bad night. That’s okay, but just leave the party. Don’t be “That Girl” sobbing in the middle of the party. Sometimes it’s needed if some guy does you wrong, but more often it’s because your emotional drunk. Oh, you’re crying because that guy didn’t compliment your dress…. No suck it up. 

7.) Don’t pretend to be drunk so you can do things you ordinarily wouldn’t. Chances are, people know you’re faking it. 

8.) Leave your phone alone. Or give it to a friend. Texting your ex at 1am on a Friday night is never a good idea. Neither is tweeting, facebooking, or anything for that matter. In the morning you will regret it, and your friends don’t want to hear you whine all night about how he won’t text you back. Even worse, don’t update people on what you are doing every second throughout the night. The chances of your crush seeing your tweet just to be at the same party as you, are slim to none.

9.) Don’t provoke fights. It seems like a good idea at the time, but let’s be honest, those zumba classes aren’t going to really help you kick anyones butt. Just stay peaceful and enjoy your night.

10.) And Lastly, be there for your other friends when they become “That Girl” and help save their dignity. That’s what a good friend would do.  


** I do not mean to offend, by all means, go out and have fun, just do it responsibly and do it with class, “Keep your head, heels, and standards high.” **